Ep. 70: My Teen's Art Program Feels Toxic. Should I Get Involved?

Let’s talk about something tricky. If your teenager is involved in the arts—especially theatre, dance, or music—you’ve probably seen how intense it can get. Passion is a beautiful thing, but when favoritism, precasting, or unhealthy competition creep in, even the most driven teen can lose their spark.

As a music educator working with teens, and also a mom of 2 teen artists, I'm super vigilant as well. So, how do we support our teens' love for performing without letting the pressure or drama take over? Let’s dig into it.

First: Know the Red Flags

One big warning sign? Your teen doesn’t feel safe asking their teacher or director for feedback. Maybe they shut down after rehearsals or feel anxious every time casting is announced. Maybe you’re the one noticing something feels off.

If something in your gut says, “This doesn’t feel right,” trust that instinct. The arts should challenge and grow our kids—but not at the cost of their emotional safety, and it's time to address that educator.

Their Mental Health Comes First

It’s easy to get caught up in performances, casting, and “doing what it takes,” especially if your teen is talented and motivated. But if their involvement starts draining their confidence or joy, it’s time to take a breath.

Your teen’s emotional well-being matters more than any role or spotlight moment. If their mental health is suffering, that’s your sign to hit pause and reassess what’s really serving them.

Create a Safe Space for Growth

You don’t need to have all the answers—but you do have the power to be your teen’s safe space. Remind them that their worth isn’t tied to casting lists or applause. Help them find environments that encourage growth, creativity, and community—not comparison.

Support can look like cheering from the audience, driving them to rehearsals, or simply saying, “You don’t have to prove anything to be enough.”

Bottom Line

You’re not “overreacting” for wanting your teen to have a healthy, joyful experience in the arts. When you listen, step in with love, and create space for honest conversations, you help them stay connected to what they love—without burning out.

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